Issue 345 - June 19, 2006
"It only takes one lie to taint your entire testimony in a court of law. Honesty is a vital part of having a good reputation." Jim Rohn
Today's issue includes:
1. The Miracle of Personal Development by Jim Rohn
2. Vitamins for the Mind - Activity/Labor by Jim Rohn
3. Life Would Be Easy... If It Weren't for COMMUNICATION Differences by Connie Podesta 4. Jim Rohn Inventory Reduction Sale
5. Jim Rohn Testimonials- June 13 - 19, 2006
6. More Information
1. The Miracle of Personal Development by Jim Rohn
One day Mr. Shoaff said, "Jim, if you want to be wealthy and happy, learn this lesson well: Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job."
Since that time I've been working on my own personal development. And I must admit that this has been the most challenging assignment of all. This business of personal development lasts a lifetime.
You see, what you become is far more important than what you get. The important question to ask on the job is not, "What am I getting?" Instead, you should ask, "What am I becoming?"
Getting and becoming are like Siamese twins: What you become directly influences what you get. Think of it this way: Most of what you have today you have attracted by becoming the person you are today.
I've also found that income rarely exceeds personal development. Sometimes income takes a lucky jump, but unless you learn to handle the responsibilities that come with it, it will usually shrink back to the amount you can handle.If someone hands you a million dollars, you'd better hurry up and become a millionaire. A very rich man once said, "If you took all the money in the world and divided it equally among everybody, it would soon be back in the same pockets it was before."
It is hard to keep that which has not been obtained through personal development.
So here's the great axiom of life:--TO HAVE MORE THAN YOU'VE GOT, BECOME MORE THAN YOU ARE--
This is where you should focus most of your attention. Otherwise, you just might have to contend with the axiom of not changing, which is:--
UNLESS YOU CHANGE HOW YOU ARE, YOU'LL ALWAYS HAVE WHAT YOU'VE GOT--
To Your Success,
Jim Rohn
2. Vitamins for the Mind by Jim Rohn
Activity/Labor You must learn to translate wisdom and strong feelings into labor.The miracle of the seed and the soil is not available by affirmation; it is only available by labor.Make rest a necessity, not an objective. Only rest long enough to gather strength.Without constant activity, the threats of life will soon overwhelm the values.The few who do are the envy of the many who only watch.For every promise, there is a price to pay.
3. Life Would Be Easy... If It Weren't for COMMUNICATION Differences
by Connie Podesta
Sometimes it seems that folks just don't get it. No matter what you say or how you say it, they simply don't have a clue - and don't seem too worried about getting one either! It's not their nature to understand; that's just how they "are."
Maybe so, but more often than not, the problem is a result of a communication breakdown. In this digitally inter-connected world, you'd think we could "fix" such basic differences.
Unfortunately, it's not as easy as plugging another device into the system. Maybe they're the problem. Maybe you are. We all know difficult people - and, in fact, we can all be the difficult person. A little background on communication styles can help us understand the issues and learn how to alter our approach to eventually make life a little easier for both parties.
The Basics
Every time we speak, we choose and use one of four basic communication styles: assertive, aggressive, passive and passive-aggressive.
Assertive Communication
The most effective and healthiest form of communication is the assertive style. It's how we naturally express ourselves when our self-esteem is intact, giving us the confidence to communicate without games and manipulation. When we are being assertive, we work hard to create mutually satisfying solutions. We communicate our needs clearly and forthrightly. We care about the relationship and strive for a win/win situation. We know our limits and refuse to be pushed beyond them just because someone else wants or needs something from us. Surprisingly, assertive is the style most people use least.
Aggressive Communication
Aggressive communication always involves manipulation. We may attempt to make people do what we want by inducing guilt (hurt) or by using intimidation and control tactics (anger). Covert or overt, we simply want our needs met - and right now! Although there are a few arenas where aggressive behavior is called for (i.e., sports or war), it will never work in a relationship. Ironically, the more aggressive sports rely heavily on team members and rational coaching strategies.
Passive Communication
Passive communication is based on compliance and hopes to avoid confrontation at all costs. In this mode we don't talk much, question even less, and actually do very little. We just don't want to rock the boat. Passives have learned that it is safer not to react and better to disappear than to stand up and be noticed.
Passive-Aggressive Communication
A combination of styles, passive-aggressive avoids direct confrontation (passive), but attempts to get even through manipulation (aggressive). If you've ever thought about making that certain someone who needs to be "taught a thing or two" suffer (even just a teeny bit), you've stepped pretty close to (if not on into) the devious and sneaky world of the passive-aggressive.
So now what? Clearly, for many reasons, the only healthy communication style is assertive communication. Surely you can identify many people in your own life that favor each of the four styles. Most of us use a combination of these four styles, depending on the person or situation. The styles we choose generally depend on what our past experiences have taught us will work best to get our needs met in each specific situation.
If you take a really good look at yourself, you've probably used each throughout your lifetime. Understanding the four basic types of communication will help you learn how to react most effectively when confronted with a difficult person. It will also help you recognize when you are using manipulative behavior to get your own needs met.
Remember, you always have a choice as to which communication style you use. If you're serious about taking control of your life, practice being more assertive. It will help you diffuse anger, reduce guilt and build relationships - both personally and professionally.
Take Action!Begin to pay attention to which communication styles you use throughout the day.
How often do you use a communication style other than assertive?
Watch and identify the communication styles some of the difficult people in your life use.
Can you begin to notice how others use manipulative techniques to get their way.
Connie Podesta is an author, counselor, educator, humorist, playwright, consultant, songwriter, actress and trainer. She radiates a super-charged, high-energy presence that immediately involves people and has them responding to her exciting challenge to reach for the best in themselves! With her talent for humor, flair for drama and unique insight into human behavior, Connie delivers solid content and practical techniques that can be put to use immediately at work and home.
"The Bible gives us a list of human stories on both sides of the ledger. One list of human stories is used as examples – do what these people did. Another list of human stories is used as warnings - don't do what these people did. So if your story ever gets in one of these books, make sure they use it as an example, not a warning." Jim Rohn
"Each of us must be committed to maintaining the reputation of all of us. And all of us must be committed to maintaining the reputation of each of us." Jim Rohn
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